I used to be jealous of those people who had floors that you could eat from, perfect hand towels in the bathroom, and kitchens that made Martha Stewart look like a pig.
For a while my half-assed efforts left me feeling less than adequate when it came to being a “woman” and doing the whole “home making” thing, as I believed I should be. I would cringe at how easily my house became messy, how I still couldn’t get the floors gleaming, or how my living room always look cluttered.
“Some woman I am” I would say to myself on occasion.
Tupperware parties, baking, cleaning products, and PotPourri were never my thing. I never played house as a kid or learned good housekeeping tips from my mom. My siblings and I were horrible and never helped out, and my mom worked and tried to keep up a home and just couldn’t do it most days, which left her angry and tired.
Just because I have a lack of domesticity doesn’t mean I don’t try. There will be days where I crank the tunes and attack the house with the same enthusiasm as perfecting a painting, or days where I whip up some magic in the crock-pot. I AM CAPABLE… It’s just not natural for me. And I always choose spending time with my daughters, art, and creation before housework.
I don’t feel as guilty as I used to about my failing grade in housework. I actually find it sort of humourous. And after all, it’s not like we live like pigs, I just don’t have the same sense of perfection with my housework that I do with my work and art.
Women’s roles have changed drastically over the years and it’s absolutely ridiculous to expect us to behave in the same manner as June Cleaver. We are liberated, strong, opinionated, hard-working, creative people and are just as diverse as the types of jobs we take on.
Despite all of this, I find it funny that as women we still question ourselves if we aren’t perfect mothers, awesome cooks, professional cleaners, and loving wives and partners who stand in the kitchen with a smile and a pair of oven mitts.
Just by being women, we have the hardest job out there. Being a woman in today’s society is tough, so don’t beat yourself up if you have a dust bunny under your couch or a stink in your fridge.